Patience is the most annoying virtue

There’s nothing I hate more than being patient. All the other virtues seem like a breeze in comparison to just shutting up and sitting tight. Self reliance? Hell yeah – easy peasy. Justice? Yep, we all want that so I’ll happily fight for it. Compassion? I like to think I have that one down. Courage? Certainly one worth trying to increase. But patience? Yuck!

I rarely wear makeup or style my hair, purely because I don’t have the patience to sit and do it in the morning. I don’t have the tolerance to sit through movies I’m not enjoying and I don’t have the persistence to wait quietly for buses so end up walking half the time. I guess I’m just short on patience. Shame it’s such an essential quality for the aspiring writer then huh?

From the submissions where you know you’re winging a story away only to kiss it good bye for up to six months (whether it’s successful or not) to the long, long waits between securing publication and seeing something in print, the literary world isn’t one that speeds along. And there’s really no alternative to grinning and bearing the waiting around.

Then there’s all the patience needed for the work itself, especially for longer pieces that may need to be reworked and re-jigged so many times that they barely seem to resemble the idea that once poured out of you so quickly. You also have to watch out for the bits that come screaming from your fingers begging to be read straight away, don’t give into the need for immediacy – let them breath a little while before sharing them – that’s what I keep reminding myself anyway.

Well, the other night I had enough patience to do my face and hair for a 20s fancy dress party, so that means I must be able to find the same to improve the writing, right? Right?

8 thoughts on “Patience is the most annoying virtue

  1. Dead on! πŸ™‚ Patience is the hardest part of the whole thing. I would rather write the book over and over again than sending it out there, sit back and “just wait”- only to get rejections.
    well, I guess we’re just going to have to take Jean-Jacques Rousseau’ word for it: β€œPatience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” πŸ™‚


  2. You’re not patient, Lynsey? I never would’ve guessed that… πŸ™‚

    Well, I am. Deeply. So I hope that if I ever get to your stage that particular quality of mine stays. I think it might actually. If I ever got to sending things off, I’d soon forget about them until I got a response (if I got a response?)

    Woo hoo, me πŸ˜€

    In other news, I saw your pictures from the party. Not that I was… following you around… … … anyway, they’re great! You look awesome. And Ink’s facial hair was brilliant!


    • Ha, you netz stalker! Thanks, we got to borrow a bunch of vintage clothes from Ink’s mum which was really cool.

      How come you got all the patience? Maybe you should share? And whaddya mean? I thought I hid it well πŸ˜‰


      • I dunno how I gots the patience. I guess it’s just a combination of my upbringing and outlook… I always reckon there’s no point in worrying about something you have no control over or that isn’t currently/may not even happen so I just don’t.

        I think being majorly lazy helps πŸ˜€

        I think you should dress like that to work all the time!


  3. I have pateince for tiny twiddling things yet not for what I consider to be time wasting exercises (which some would see as being the same). By time wasting I mean that I have no patience for waiting for buses/people who are late. But rewards….I’m a real Pavlov dog. I can wait ages if I think I’m going to be rewarded (and really kick off if I’m not, lol!)


  4. Kit – not worry about things you have no control over? Whaaaaat? I don’t even know what that means!

    I’ve taken to wearing the hat – the dress and the jewels might be a bit much πŸ™‚


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